Ariel, August 4, 2022
Guys, if you want to take your relationship with your girlfriend to the next level, meeting her elders is an indispensable step. And you must withstand the barrage of questions from all the aunts and uncles to successfully pass the test.
However, among the many elders, there's one "relative" of your girlfriend you can't afford to ignore. Her relationship with your girlfriend is profound, visiting every month and staying for about seven days.
Under this relative's influence, you can clearly feel a change in your girlfriend's attitude towards you. Her mood becomes inexplicably low and irritable, she's often sullen and pouts, finding fault in everything you do. She might even lack the energy to do anything, preferring to curl up under the covers, resisting this relative's arrival, and also cutting off intimate moments with you. How can this be acceptable?
Today, we'll address the three most perplexing questions guys have when facing this relative:
"What's going on?"
"Why is my girlfriend in a bad mood?"
"What should I do?"
Other misconceptions about this relative will also be addressed in the article below.
What's going on?
This troublesome relative is what we often call — "Aunt Flo," also known as menstruation. Menstruation is the result of hormonal changes in a woman's body. If the egg, which matures and is released under the influence of follicle-stimulating hormones, is not fertilized, the endometrium prepared for pregnancy will break down and shed, causing blood and tissue to flow out from the female vaginal opening, which is what we commonly refer to as menstruation.
The reason menstruation comes and goes cyclically is that a woman releases an egg every month, and the formation of the egg and the cleanup afterwards take about 28 days in total, thus forming a monthly phenomenon.
❌ Missing a period doesn't necessarily mean pregnancy!
Menstruation visits are not always on schedule; due to various reasons (diet, sleep, medication, emotions), it can arrive early or be delayed by a few days, but as long as the length of the menstrual cycle is roughly the same, it's considered normal. Of course, it's very good to be cautious. However, if you've been careful with contraception, you don't have to worry about becoming a father unprepared.
❌ You can't hold in menstruation!
Unlike urine, menstruation is uncontrollable. This is why women need to use sanitary pads during their period. Menstruation flows out from the female vaginal opening, while urine comes from the urethral opening. The urethra has a sphincter, so you can hold in urine by controlling the muscles. And our bladder can store urine, whereas the shedding of the endometrium is directly expelled from the body.
❌ Sanitary pads can't relieve pain!
The purpose of sanitary pads is only to absorb menstrual blood, preventing it from staining clothes and ensuring women can move freely during their period. Beyond that, sanitary pads have no other function. Some sanitary pads claim to contain herbal ingredients, negative ion chips, etc., that can regulate a woman's body, but these are false claims and should not be believed.
Why is my girlfriend always unhappy at this time?
The arrival of menstruation makes many guys anxious, so it's easy to upset your girlfriend at this time, and "kneeling on the keyboard" has become a common occurrence. Is the gentle and cute side of your girlfriend all fake? Does her true self come out during her period? Or is she harboring long-standing resentments against me, using menstruation as an excuse to explode?
In fact, the severe emotional fluctuations women experience during this period could likely be a manifestation of premenstrual syndrome. It is estimated that up to 3 out of every 4 women have experienced premenstrual syndrome. Symptoms of premenstrual syndrome include not only emotional fluctuations but also changes in appetite, breast tenderness, etc. Therefore, your girlfriend's temper at this time may not be her true intention.
Furthermore, women experience many other physiological pains during their period. First, due to hormonal changes, women might break out in acne, causing feelings of insecurity. At this time, they might need their boyfriends to give them affirming love. Sometimes, a slight neglect from the boyfriend can be magnified by this insecurity, leading to their emotional breakdown.
Secondly, many women suffer from menstrual cramps. During menstrual cramps, women experience spasms and cramping in the abdomen, along with possible back pain, nausea, vomiting, constipation, and other discomforts. With physical discomfort, it's hard for women to maintain a cheerful mood, often feeling aggrieved, sad, or even in pain.
Therefore, during this period, women are very vulnerable and need more care and understanding from their boyfriends.
What should I do?
As a boyfriend, you can alleviate your girlfriend's discomfort during her period through the following methods, which might even make her think you're considerate and loving!
① Show empathy for her discomfort: As mentioned above, your girlfriend faces both physical and psychological torment during her period. If she's in a bad mood or irritable, it's likely due to hormonal changes, not her true intention. Hope you can understand her situation more and treat it with a compassionate heart;
② Prepare various methods to alleviate menstrual pain: Menstrual pain can be relieved through various methods, such as heat application, massage, and painkillers. Although it's often joked that "straight men" would tell a woman to "drink more hot water" during her period, hot water does have the effect of alleviating menstrual pain! But personally bringing her a cup of hot water is more likely to make your girlfriend happy than just saying it!
③ Pay attention to her lifestyle habits: Unhealthy lifestyle habits can exacerbate discomfort during menstruation. So, you can pay more attention to whether she's resting well, exercising moderately, and eating a balanced diet. Not just her, but you also need to live healthily to maintain a high physical quality. Spending healthy, happy days together, influencing each other positively, is the best way to love!
To the boyfriends who have read up to this point, we give you a big thumbs up! It shows you truly care about your girlfriend! Believe that by dealing with her "Aunt Flo," you're not far from winning her heart! Keep it up~
